Before you can use this modality of prayer Gregg says you must ask yourself this question" Am I ready to move beyond a 'gut' reaction or an old belief that 'someone must pay' or 'I need to get even' in order to write a wrong?" "In other words are you ready to move beyond the type of thinking that justifies hurting someone because they hurt you?"
The blessing is in three parts:
1. Blessing Those Who Suffer ( including yourself)
2. Blessing whatever or whoever causes the suffering
3. Blessing Those Who Witness the Suffering.
In the book you will find a template for this and great detail on each part of this. For me this is the meat of this book, but getting there is a beautiful journey and a lovely chapter follows on beauty itself. It's a small book and a great gift.
Not long after I read it I was driving by myself to my daughter's home and found myself using these blessings on the almost 3 hour country roads journey. It ended up being a life changing journey as I "blessed away a life time of perceived wrongs. Foremost was to my deceased Mother, whom I felt had not loved me, certainly never said so. After I did the blessing on her I felt like she came to me to let me know she had loved me. I "saw" her holding me as a child. It was very moving as I have no memories of her ever holding me and yet it was visceral in every detail. A few minutes after this I pulled over in a park along the way and went up a hill to sit against a tree and meditate on it and do more blessings. I asked if what I had "seen" was real. When I got back in my car and reached over into a box of CD's (at least 50 of them) without looking I pulled out a CD to listen to for the rest of the trip. I pulled up my answer in a CD I forgot I owned, only played once years ago. It was Celine Dion's " Lullabies!"
I have to say my life changed in so many ways after this and now I start "blessing" ASAP! This happened the last time I lost major weight (72pds). I blessed a lot over my life at that time, felt I had covered everything and slowly got out of the blessing habit. Major health issues and a regain of all my weight slowly brought me back to this book and blessing. Thank God, It's my intention to go on using this blessing tool through a completed health trip. And as needed on a daily basis. Try It, you won't regret it!