Anyway, now I'll keep it shorter. I had a couple of lapses this week. I don't want to go down the rabbit hole of relapse so I pulled out Ms. Fletchers book last night. I don't guess it's important the long story of how, why & what I did (long story) just that it remain just a lapse. According to Ms. Fletcher lapses are unplanned events. So choosing way ahead to have a pasta salad on Mom's day is not a slip but having seconds is.
I didn't beat myself up, I didn't go with the old stinkin thinkin way of well I've blown it-might as well eat what I want the rest of today-reboot tomorrow.
This morning I reread the 5th key to success in " Thin For Life." The best one IMHO. I want to share the list of skills I read in the subchapter" A Plan for Preventing Relapse that last nights lapse taught me I need to use more.
Skill#1: Identify your potential high risk situations. (I learned that eating in a space with a lot of commotion going on is risky for me)
Skill #2: Prevent high-risk situations as best you can. ( I couldn't prevent the commotion, but I could have taken my plate to another room.)
Skill # 3: Effectively deal with high risk situations when they do occur. ( you can't always eliminate situations but you can change what you do in the situation.)
Skill#4: React constructively after high risk situations. She states that Drs. Grilo and Brownell warn that negative emotional reactions pose a "greater threat to successful maintenance than do the few excess calories."
Bottom line is learning lessons from my lapse and new skills to prevent it from turning into a full blown relapse. I congratulate myself for my awareness of the lapse and I pledge not to let it lead to another immediate relapse. I'm accepting my magnificent makeover so that I'll never again try hiding behind my grandchildren as I did my children in the picture above.