I decided to actually do that tool right here, right now so I don't forget. My intention is to come back here each week to add to it like she suggest. BTW that is me above about 20 years ago, the last time I was the size I am now- I really need to get someone to take current pictures of me.
She tells you to write this in a journal or blog. I chose my blog.
First: you write a letter apologizing for the way you've treated yourself & vow never to do it again. BTW I call my inner self "kitten."
Second: You make 2 list. On each you start with 5 things and each day-or week add one thing to each. I choose each week-because I already have done work on this with other modalities. Never hurts to have a refresh.
Dear Sweet Inner Kitten,
I apologize for all the ways I've been mean to you. I wouldn't say aloud to anyone else the unkind things I've said to you. I'm so sorry for looking at our body with such disgust when You have done so much for me and worked so hard at improving our health. I vow to do my best to look at all the various parts with compassion and love and to visualize you as the lovely body I know you to be. I vow to only use loving kind words when speaking to you,
I love myself enough that I will:
1.Continue adding in more & more nutritious food.
2.Continue on to reach and maintain my weight loss goal.
3.Continue learning and improving my mind.
4.Continue moving and exercising my body.
5.Keep telling myself how much I love me!
I love myself because:
1. I have a huge heart and love unconditionally.
2. I walk with my hand in God's.
3. I am open minded and will investigate myself before I decide.
4. I love and care for all God's creatures.
5. I'm generous.
So, Did it! This is how it went. The letter easy to write-but tears ran as I did. How can I love without conditions for everyone else but myself? The first list was easy because I'm already doing these things. The second list was HARD! I keep telling myself I love myself but never why. Cat Elliott, who wrote the original blog of her own, talks about this. I also saw a video yesterday with a woman talking about how our culture (USA) views saying good things about ourselves as being stuck up, egocentric.
Also when stuck after the first two-I thought of how it is said that what we see in others we see in ourselves. So I thought of what I love about friends and family and found things that are true about me as well.
Here is the link-some really great ideas to help:(http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-14467/9-self-care-tips-i-learned-from-losing-120-pounds.html)