I want to talk about being your authentic self and appreciating who that is. When I first made up the quote picture above I was thinking of how the authentic me likes short flowery dresses like I wore years ago in this picture-How I look forward to dressing authentically.
I also chose the quote with this pic. because the London Bridge and red phone booth are authentic but they are in a place that is not authentic to them, the Arizona desert. I sometimes feel like that bridge must feel I didn't post my weight yesterday on the 27th ( my #9 weigh in day) because it was also my 43rd Anniversary.
My family is use to me as being the "coach potato" they have been helping care for (after a medical event) for a few years now. Especially my grown son & husband that live here with me. I'm learning that as I get healthier ( physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally) they are happy for me, but still see me as a person I no longer am. These days I'm my authentic self and I let that show. I know longer "stuff" all my feelings down and put a smile on my face.
Sometimes Family wants you to be healthier-but only as long as it doesn't effect their lives. I'm changing and evolving so quickly now I realize that they just don't "get" it. That can be very frustrating on all sides. It would be easier to go back to that smile, but it would kill me.
Yesterday after an argument ( actually two with 2 different people) I was so proud of myself for leaving the room ( I'm working to where I have more control in the heat of the moment, but for now I have to calm down first with EFT, prayer, ect.) gathering my thoughts and instead of eating and pasting that smile, I calmly went back in the room and said what I needed to say in a calm manner.
With one person this was laying boundaries in a simple way he could understand. With the other It was both stating what I would need, asking what he needed so that we could go on with a happy day together. One thing I will tell you because I believe a lot of people do this. I've been known to myself in the past. I asked that we not bring up past events to current arguments. That we stay on topic. Bashing another person with perceived wrongs from years past, they can do nothing to change now does not help.
I'm loving myself more and more every day. Being authentic to this wonderful new me can be scary but exhilarating . I hope that as I work thru these issues that come up as my body changes so drastically my writing about them can help you. So start investigating who the authentic you is and let the world get to know you.