I grew up on a bayou and learned to respect these guys. But somehow, until recently, I never learned to respect my own feelings. Yes, family dynamics played into this. I wonder how many of us learned to eat over the phrase " Stop that crying or I'll give you something to cry about"?
Yesterday I was feeling sad about friends moving away. It kept coming up, no matter how much I kept telling my self to snap out of it, that I'm happy they are thrilled with their move. So- as an old standby to avert eating over the feelings- I started tapping. The thing is, I wasn't craving food of any kind. And as I first started to Tap this inner voice said
" Ginger you need to just sit with this feeling. Explore it. Feel it."
So I did. I cried a few tears, I realized it wasn't just their moving but that I've had the majority of my open minded friends move away. As I looked over pictures my friend had brought me of a group we belong to I realized how many are no longer here. Moved, dropped out or even passed over.
My sadness was one of loss, of times changing.
Just as my body is changing so is my inner self. Or rather, I recon it's the other way around. It came to me that as I get healthier I can go visit my friends, then my hubby came in and said you know someday we will be living in the next state over- I'll take you to see them. As we talked about that "someday" (a long story) I felt excitement coming up. I realized why everyone was moving on. I saw benefits of change.
Seven months ago I would have headed for ice cream after my friends left and blotted out my feelings over it rather than exploring my feelings. I see now that it's ok to feel my feelings- just sit with them awhile. The tapping is for those that will lead to cravings or overeating the "healthy" stuff.